Beyonce Who?

I think it's time to give all you people a little tough love. The facebook statuses have really raised a red flag, and quite frankly, you're giving the female population a bad rep. Stop feeling bad about the five pounds you've gained (those Big Macs were pretty damn good), or the fact you don't have a boyfriend (boys suck anyways). You're not getting the attention you deserve with this negative outlook you have on yourself.
No one is going to love you if you can’t love yourself.

Here’s your morning routine, right? Get up, eat, brush your teeth, and get dressed. But somewhere between cleaning those pearly whites and tying your last shoe lace, you do something that should not be a part of your morning: you judge, critique, and envision yourself looking different than you do. But however wrong that habit is, you just know that you’d be more beautiful with blue eyes instead of brown, or if you were a little bit taller, or if you were five pounds thinner.

While you’re going down the check list of things you want to change about yourself, you are doing more than envisioning a different you: you aren’t embracing the beautiful things you offer to the world right now. So what if your hair isn’t as long as you’d like it to be, or if you’re not as tan as that one girl, or if you hate the gap in your teeth. There are people in the world who think you’re beautiful the way you are right now, so why can’t you see it?

When I see Facebook statuses about how girls think they’re so ugly or fat, or the reason why a certain guy doesn’t like them is because of the way they look, I get concerned about these insecure thoughts. First of all, if I see one more post from a skinny, blonde, pretty girl about being ugly, I might scream. You are beautiful to begin with, and your negative outlook on yourself just makes you ugly. So, seriously, stop with the depressing status. (My newsfeed is starting to look like a teenaged girl’s diary. Not cool.)

Second of all, if you’re worried that a guy doesn’t like you because of your looks, he isn’t good enough for you to begin with! Cliché or not, you want to find someone who wants to be with you, without caring about how you look in a little black dress or tight jeans. (Which are both uncomfortable anyways. So find a guy who likes you in sweats. That guy is definitely a keeper.)

Instead of always worrying about what you look like, or how much you eat, or what other people think of you, start loving what you already offer. Whether it’s how great you play a sport, how awesome you can sing, or how much you love to write (holler), be happy with what you can put out there so people can appreciate you.

But before anyone can appreciate who you are, you have to realize you are perfect the way you are. (Don’t believe me? Just ask Bruno Mars.) Okay, you don’t look like Giselle Bundchen or Beyoncé, but in reality, what normal person does? Unless you have a bazillion dollars to spend on a killer wardrobe, stylist, and personal trainer, you can’t look like that. So end your wish list of the things you want to look like, and make a list of the things you love about yourself. Love you freckles? Your smile? Your red hair? Embracing the qualities you have only radiates confidence and self-assurance, which are qualities that actually attract the boys or friends , and will just make you plain happier. (And who doesn’t want to be happy? I mean, you are reading my blog, AKA happiness on a webpage...)

So enough with the depressing statuses and the unnecessary morning routine of judging yourself. The statuses just make me angry and the judging just adds a few extra minutes more than you need in the morning, so cut the crap. Be happy with who you are right now. You can offer things that even Giselle and Beyoncé can’t offer. Accept your flaws, love your uniqueness. Chances are that certain boy, your friends, and the world have.

We’re all just waiting on you.