I know it's been awhile since the last post, but I hope you all forgive me. All three of you who read my blog... (thanks mom). Anyways, read and be happy like always. Don't let the title mislead you.
There are no secrets to life. Everyone knows they can mess up, make mistakes, make people mad, and ultimately be judged in the end. There aren’t any secret passwords, magic tricks, or potions to make it all better. It sucks, we can all agree on that. But even though there isn’t an easy way out or a get out of jail free card, people should realize that making a mistake or being judged isn’t the end of the world.
Granted, there are definitely bad decisions. (Peeing in a stranger’s house in the middle of the night or trying to attack a satellite because the signal’s down are NOT the best ideas). You may or may not regret the decision of breaking and entering to relieve yourself or climbing the wire fence in the middle of the night to fight the satellites. But hey, it happens. But these choices (whose intoxication levels will not be discussed) aren’t life changing, or fatally hurting anyone. Unless of course you end up stabbing your eyes out with the wire fence or end up breaking into a police officer’s house to pee. But that’s not the point.
The point is people make mistakes. They fall in lust with the wrong people, they chose to skip class so they can sleep in, and they indulge in a little too much fun on a Friday night. Sure, people may look at you as a stubborn, unmotivated, out of control person, but as long as you know what kind of person you are, it doesn’t matter. People judge, its human nature. That’s why it’s called “The Walk of Shame” after a night out. It’s not called “The Walk of ‘I’m-not-going-to-judge-this-person-walking-in-highheels-and-minidress-at-nine-AM’”. Because for one, it’s a lot wordier than the first. And secondly, people see these walkers of shame as floozy, drunk, desperate girls. (or boys, but they wouldn’t be in heels or mini-dress.)
But do you think those people care what other people think? No. If they did, they’d be cautious enough to bring a change of clothes with them to the party, so they wouldn’t be the girl wearing a party dress from the night before. Instead, they hold their head high and walk (occasionally tripping in their heels…at least I would be) with a sense of college pride, past all of their judgers because they know they aren’t the floozy, drunk, desperate person they are accused of being.
We have to be these walkers of shame. In a metaphorical sense, of course. I’m not advocating everyone to sleep around. That’s just gross. But I am advocating that everyone should hold their heads high whenever they make a decision that isn’t popular or isn’t the smartest, and walk by their judgers. Yeah, people could react badly and be mad or judge you, but so what? Did the decision make you happy? Then don’t worry about what other people think.
In the end, all that matters is how you feel about yourself. Would it make you happier to eat four cupcakes after dinner (tried this once, and yup I was happier), or go up and talk to a random guy at a party (maybe without the intentions of performing the Walk of Shame the next morning)? So do it. Do you want to hang out with friends who your other friends don’t particularly like, or go somewhere where they don’t want to go? Go for it. Do whatever you can to make you happy, even if that means having the risk of being judged, or even making a mistake. People forgive, and we can learn.
Learn that our choices might not be the easiest to make, or the most popular, or the smartest, but if you feel you are completely happy with your choice, than it is the right one for you.
So next time you see someone performing “The Walk of Shame” don’t judge them—because they show us how to be happy with our choices, and how to rock high heels at 9 in the morning.
