Stage 5 Clinger Alert

I’ve come to a monumental realization. The person who cares the least, has the most control. The most power. Whether it be in a relationship, or something more taboo (Like, Hitler for instance. He was not a caring guy and look what happened). The person with the most control is able to walk away from the situation with nothing but a smile and a clear mind. You know why? They don’t care.

All of those nights where I constantly held my phone in hope of hearing those two meek vibrations indicating he texted me. The racing thoughts of wondering what he was doing, who was he with, and the rest of the desperate attempts to get him to pay attention to me a little more. I was the vulnerable one in this situation because I was trying the hardest. He wasn’t trying as hard as I was to keep the relationship intact. That made him the stronger one—the one in control.

Sure, I’ve realized this less than satisfying piece of information, but what am I supposed to do with it? The damage is already done. I guess the only thing left to do is listen to the saddest playlist ever and have a good cry, right?

Wrong.

Look, you might’ve messed things up in the past by being a little crazy, with an extra dose of clingy, but you have time to change. Remove the “stage 5 clinger” reputation by giving all those guys a dose of their own medicine—play hard to get right back. Act like you don’t care, so he’s the one thinking about you. Make him wonder what you’re doing and who you’re with.

Okay, it might be scary to think you can’t text him, resulting in only having texts from your mom (guilty, and not ashamed of it). But in the long run, it will make you seem more laid back, less needy, and ultimately more desirable to the oh-so-confusing male population. Those few days will be worth it in the end when he’s the one asking about you and texting you first.

Just remember, don’t be that girl who needs to text a guy constantly; as a result, you’ll come across as being that girl who needs a guy to be happy (and from my previous blog post, that’s a big no-no).  As much as it sucks to not talk to him every hour of the day, realize that he probably isn’t partying it up with six Playboy-esque girls or spending time with his ex-girlfriend, like you just know he’s doing. Let’s be honest, most of the time he’s either playing Call of Duty or FIFA with this friends. So stop worrying who he’s with or what he’s doing. Don’t send that third text in a row asking about it (you’ll thank me later).

Show him you don’t need him or you don’t think about him all the time (even though you probably do). Do this, and then he’ll want to make sure he’s in your life so you do think about him constantly. Be the one with the most control. The tables will turn, and he’ll be the one texting you.

            After he gets his last round of FIFA in, of course.